Earlier this week I turned 37. I had a lovely day celebrating with my friends (you can read all about it here) but I’m not going to lie and say it was easy. No one likes getting older right?
My birthday was on Monday and on Saturday before I had had a little break down. I’d been feeling a bit down for a few days and when everyone was making a fuss about the upcoming day and asking me whether I was excited I just started crying. I’m not sure why and it’s completely silly. I started talking to a lot of friends about how I felt and learnt something very important. No matter what the age, most of us feel like we should be somewhere else, doing something else, are underachieving etc. We are too harsh on ourselves!
So I decided to embrace my age and concentrate on the positives. Yes I’m still single and the older you get the harder it seems to meet someone, but I’m free to do what I want and I’d rather be single than in a bad relationship. And yes I haven’t achieved all the career goals I hoped for, but I enjoy what I’m doing and I have my blog and social media which are my creative outlets and that makes me very happy.
Another big dream of mine is travelling and I must say that in my 36th year of life I have ticked quite a few destinations off my list. I visited Croatia, Venice, Barcelona and Paris few times so that’s not a bad going and I’m going to Florence in May which I can’t wait for and Czech Republic in July (see where else I’m hoping to go in the near future here) I’ve made some of these trips alone and that has been a big learning curve. I never though I’d be able to go on a holiday on my own but it’s actually very empowering. Learning to do these things on your own gives you more confidence and sense of freedom. And yes I’d love to meet someone one day but I’m doing rather well on my own.
I think we need to stop being so critical to ourselves and concentrate on the things we achieved. I first arrived to London a week before my 20th birthday (17 years ago) and that was before Czech Republic joined the EU so my only option was to be an au pair. I’ve come a long way since then. And I/we tend to forget those little achievements. But even living on your own and being independent is a big thing to do and not everyone could do it.
I am trying to work on those dreams every day. I think sometimes you have to look at the bigger picture and sometimes you have to break those big dreams into little goals and do a little by little to achieve what you want. You’re never too old to do what you love and makes you happy. There’s right time for everything and it’s very easy to forget but we need to remind ourselves every single day.
I promise myself to be kinder to me from now on and pat myself on the back even for the little things. Life is not always easy and we all have our doubts and down days, but let’s stop for a moment and put things into perspective and concentrate on the good in life.
How do you deal with negative thoughts? Are you happy where you are at your age?
Have a stylish day.